Posts Tagged ‘faith’

I used to say: “Hope for the best, expect the worst.”. It was a coping mechanism that I don’t fully support anymore. It tells you to want something, be attached to the outcome, and if you don’t get what you want, force yourself not to be sad about it. I don’t see the truth in this anymore. I deal with things differently now.

I’ve been talking a lot about not attaching to outcomes. I think it’s good to want something, but not to be attached to the outcome. But I’ve also found it very hard not to be attached to an outcome. If you want something, it’s natural to think about what the outcome could be like. And just thinking about outcomes will gently and very easily nudge you into the direction of being attached to a certain outcome. So what to do?

I don’t know the answer to that question. Permitting yourself to make mistakes might be part of it. Accepting a different outcome than the ones you anticipated, in whichever way, is another. But then, is it really such a bad thing to hope for the best? (I really don’t like the negativity of the ‘expect the worst’ part anymore.)

Today a friend got me thinking about the difference between hope and faith. For some time now, I have felt like hope does not help me anymore, whereas faith has helped me and continues to help through my life. It has always been with me, and has only grown in the past couple of years. This friend asked me what I thought the difference was between the two things.

I thought for a while and the answer I came up with surprised me in its simplicity. They both voice an anticipating to a certain outcome, without attaching oneself to it. But with hope, the underlying sentiment is uncertainty. And with faith, it is certainty.

With certainty comes confidence. And with confidence comes positivity. And with positivity good things come your way. I feel like this might be part of a bigger question yet unasked. To be continued.


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Isn’t time something wonderful? Without having to do anything about it, it passes and the future will replace the present automatically.

You might feel it when you’re doing an uninteresting job you don’t particularly care about, you might feel it when you’re in a train on a long trip. Eventually you’ll be done with work, and you’ll arrive at your destination. All you have to do is be patient and keep doing what you’re doing. (And, while you’re waiting, why not make the best of it and enjoy it?)

I feel it mostly when I’m running. I usually run about 8 km, and I never really feel like it before I’m out there.


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I’m trying out a new trick. I’m going to try to substitute certain emotions with just one, namely surprise.

I was at an event the other day, where you would pay the organizers and contributors based on value-based pricing. Because this is a pretty new phenomenon to most people, there was someone explaining what this was about. He said: “You just pay what you find it worth. But this may seem easier than it is. Some people might worry whether they’re not paying enough, others might worry they’re overpaying. Let’s keep it all simple. There’s no right and wrong here.”
“I don’t get angry. I am surprised every now and then. Every time I give a presentation somewhere, even though I’ve been telling people all these years that I don’t drink any alcohol, they give me a bottle of wine. Then I think: wow, that’s surprising!” His point was that there was no right and wrong in the amount of money you give them. At most, there is surprise.

I really liked this notion. What if every time someone gets mad (probably due to miscommunication), sad, annoyed, frustrated or anything else that might be in the way of a joyful moment in time, that person substitutes this feeling with a feeling of surprise? What would the consequences be?


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